Thank you, I really appreciate your good wishes for both of us. 🙏❤️
You’re right, as ever. Self care is not optional in times such as these. Managing the stress response is absolutely fundamental— when we don’t, it starts to affect our sleep, then we reach for caffeine to wake us, and alcohol (or alternatives) to help us sleep, which further knock us off kilter. We crave high energy convenience foods, and slowly but surely all the pillars that support our health topple.
If we’re going to get through this with self intact, learning skills to manage the stress response is absolutely critical. And although the process I’m sharing may seem long (given I include all the science, which makes my posts a bit wordy) it’s actually the most easy and effective thing I’ve ever found to facilitate deep rest.
It reminds me of the contemplation exercises that I once-upon-a-time did on a daily basis.
Back when things were more simple. And now I think I have an idea just WHY things were more simple. I'm so tired of never being awake, and never being able to sleep that I may even go back to something I know will bring relief and comfort. (Never been really big on being good to myself...)
Thank you, Lori. This is no longer something I consider to be optional. If I wish to continue living, and caring for Mom, I must be in control of myself and my health.
I am so sorry to hear about your partner, and I am very happy for you both that things were no worse. I hope things will return to the "normal" that you both once enjoyed, and hopefully soon!
By the way, I think normal day-to-day people (as opposed to the insta-fabulous people) are generally not good at being good to ourselves. I, for one, always think ‘I’ll do it later’ after doing all the things I need to do for others. And then it’s day’s-end and we’re tired and we think, ‘I’ll do it tomorrow.’
No- we do it NOW, at day’s beginning. Invest that time in ourselves, and we’ll have the energy and headspace to give our best to those who need it. And then we’re less likely to be rocked by all the other crap.
Thank you, I really appreciate your good wishes for both of us. 🙏❤️
You’re right, as ever. Self care is not optional in times such as these. Managing the stress response is absolutely fundamental— when we don’t, it starts to affect our sleep, then we reach for caffeine to wake us, and alcohol (or alternatives) to help us sleep, which further knock us off kilter. We crave high energy convenience foods, and slowly but surely all the pillars that support our health topple.
If we’re going to get through this with self intact, learning skills to manage the stress response is absolutely critical. And although the process I’m sharing may seem long (given I include all the science, which makes my posts a bit wordy) it’s actually the most easy and effective thing I’ve ever found to facilitate deep rest.
Lori,
It reminds me of the contemplation exercises that I once-upon-a-time did on a daily basis.
Back when things were more simple. And now I think I have an idea just WHY things were more simple. I'm so tired of never being awake, and never being able to sleep that I may even go back to something I know will bring relief and comfort. (Never been really big on being good to myself...)
Thank you, Lori. This is no longer something I consider to be optional. If I wish to continue living, and caring for Mom, I must be in control of myself and my health.
I am so sorry to hear about your partner, and I am very happy for you both that things were no worse. I hope things will return to the "normal" that you both once enjoyed, and hopefully soon!
By the way, I think normal day-to-day people (as opposed to the insta-fabulous people) are generally not good at being good to ourselves. I, for one, always think ‘I’ll do it later’ after doing all the things I need to do for others. And then it’s day’s-end and we’re tired and we think, ‘I’ll do it tomorrow.’
No- we do it NOW, at day’s beginning. Invest that time in ourselves, and we’ll have the energy and headspace to give our best to those who need it. And then we’re less likely to be rocked by all the other crap.